A Sharing secret

"It's not enough to have lived. We should be determined to live for something. May I suggest that it be creating joy for others, sharing what we have for the betterment of person kind, bringing hope to the lost and love to the lonely." (Leo F Buscaglia)

What powerful words of beauty!

When many talk of sharing, we just say "yeah, good", "that's right" but when we are in the forefront of sharing, it seems like we are stuck to a glue of hesitation.

Ever wonder why?

It is called as fear! Oh it does have many other names too.
Fear of not being perfect, fear of rejection, fear of being laughed at, fear of not giving the best, fear of not being very knowledgeable and the list does add on and on.

We fail to realize that when we share, we are giving what is best in us... a teacher of science wouldn't be sharing karate lessons to a student unless karate is his dear hobby. Now it could happen; that the student has learnt more on that specific subject than the teacher - so he may give feedback with some contradictions or maybe provide a better solution. What really happens here is a process of sharing, which is beneficial for both the teacher and the student! Both have learnt new things. (I hope they both are happy too)

Now, in this process of sharing, if at any time, the teacher had felt that the student is acting smart, or being impolite or is not worth teaching or if the student had felt that the teacher is incompetent, or not knowledgeable then the whole process of sharing comes crumbling down and what takes its place is anger and unrest and stress...

So in the whole process of sharing, the participants need to understand that if someone shares an info, opinion, fact or idea - it’s because they believe it is useful. Now you need to acknowledge that and appreciate their desire to share it with you.

So the next time, you meet someone who is sharing something with you,
1. Acknowledge their efforts with thanks
2. Appreciate their desire to give you that "something"
3. Apply it (if appropriate) to any aspect of your life

Sharing my learning
Ashley Chris Vinil J P